5 Signs You're In A Healthy Relationship

Healthy relationships aren’t about never fighting - they’re about how you fight. If you can argue without being cruel, and you both feel safe sharing your perspectives, you’re doing better than most. Try to avoid letting emotions take over, cheap shots and jabs don’t solve anything. Sometimes compromise is the only solution, even when it feels like you’re right. Real love is about navigating these moments together with respect.

Example: "We’ve had big arguments about how much time to spend with each other's families, his mom expects Sunday dinners every week, and I want some weekends to ourselves. It’s led to some tough conversations, but we’ve learned to step back, acknowledge what matters to each of us, and find a balance that works for both."

It’s not always about romantic declarations or grand gestures. If you can laugh together, especially at the silly, everyday moments, that’s a powerful sign of a strong bond. Shared humor creates a sense of unity and reminds you both not to take life, or yourselves, too seriously. The best memories often come from the messiest moments.

Example: “We had a kitchen mishap where the blender exploded mid-smoothie, and now every time we see a blender, we crack up and shout, ‘LID!?’ It’s become our weird little thing but it never gets old. It’s these kinds of inside jokes that make even the most mundane objects part of our story.”

Healthy love doesn’t mean tolerating someone despite their quirks - it means appreciating them because of them. These quirks often become the little things that make your relationship unique and fun, even if they drive you slightly crazy at first. Over time, they can evolve into inside jokes or moments of connection that are yours alone.

Example: “She has this obsession with popping my pimples, it’s weird, but she literally won’t leave me alone until I let her. I used to resist, but now I let her do it as long as it doesn't hurt! It’s oddly become a bonding moment, as strange as it sounds, and I even tease her by pointing out new ‘targets’ just to see her light up.”

Life isn’t always smooth sailing, but how you approach problems can be the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy one. If you and your partner tackle challenges together, using each other’s best qualities to make the job easier, you’re on solid ground. By combining your unique strengths and working as a team, you can turn even the toughest situations into opportunities to grow closer.

Example: “When we had a massive plumbing disaster at 2 a.m., we didn’t bicker or point fingers. Instead, we grabbed towels and figured it out together. We approach problems like teammates, not competitors. We’re both very competitive, and it can be easy to compare notes, but we each have our own unique specialties and approaches, so we try to tackle problems together.”

In a world full of curated perfection, being able to let your guard down is priceless. If you don’t have to “perform” for your partner, you’re exactly where you need to be.

Example: “I broke down crying over a terrible day at work just as we were getting ready for bed. He didn’t judge me - he just hugged me and asked if I wanted a snack or talk it out. That’s when I knew I could be 100% myself.”